Black Nerd!!
| Hello friends, how are you? It’s been so long since I posted anything on my blog and the content which I was about to write has been on my mind for years, but I didn’t want to touch this topic. Have you ever had someone playfully tease with you or someone else with name calling? Be it your friends, family.. everyone should have gone through that phase somewhere, somehow. But was it right to do that? I was given several names during my young age, from my relatives to my friends in school and college. I’ve been named Blacky by my family. I remember throwing fits of anger at my family for that, but they brushed me off saying it was just for fun. I remember asking my grandmother why should your son be black which resulted in me being of the same skin color. Even though my family assured me that they were only joking, it had a deep impact on me. Up to college, I had issues with my complexion that made me very quiet, thinking I’m not good. Even my friends called me ‘black nerd’ and to avoid needless discussions I turned my attention away with books and studies, so I spent most of my time reading. I can’t remember anything I enjoyed in my youth. My parents were proud that I was a good girl and everyone around me thought that I was a studious person but in reality, I didn’t want to talk to anyone, so that I can avoid them teasing me. This brought in loneliness which in turn made me move towards suicidal thoughts, and I started looking for real love everywhere. I’m tough, but I’m also a sensitive soul. My family thought I was bold, which I was, but it was also a result of me creating walls so as to not let anyone inside. I didn’t fight with anyone, but I would brush things off as if it didn’t bother me, even though it did. I remember in those years this impact led me to many unhealthy friendships and relationships. The bible says: Ephesians 4:29-30 Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them. And do not bring sorrow to God’s Holy Spirit by the way you live. Remember, he has identified you as his own, guaranteeing that you will be saved on the day of redemption. One thing that helped me was, when I had a talk with my counselling friend about this, she said, “You are the child of God made in His image, so whoever is talking/calling you by names other than the One that God gave you is talking against Him/His creation” Remember, the words from your mouth have power. It can either build others or destroy them knowingly or unknowingly. So, let’s speak words of truth that create life, not destroy life. In your speaking to yourself and others, learn how to use the power of words in a clear, truthful and accurate way. Proverbs 18:21 puts it this way: “The tongue has the power of life and death.” *Before speaking, think if it is going to glorify God! *Stop calling others by names even for fun. You will never know, how much it could hurtfully impact them. *Don’t have mean names for your kids, but call them by the names given by God – child of God, Royal Priesthood, Overcomer. Insist and speak positive things over them. *Use your words wisely. In this world, there will be judgements, assumptions, opinions from others. Everyday will not be good and everyone will not be nice. Remember, we live in the world where we are torn easily. In such cases, when you feel alone, when you feel you are worthless and when someone makes you to think you are not the one for it, remember what God has told you in His bible: JOHN 1:12 Yet to all who did receive him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God. Yes, you are called as the children of God, no matter what others call you. Don’t let the lies hide you from the truth. God made you and loves you just as you are. God Bless! |
