Get out of it!
by Carol Yasin
Sometimes, we feel like God is so much far away that He doesn’t care about what is happening in our lives. At one point of time in our life, we are stuck into conclusion, thinking He didn’t have mercy on us and thus we suffer and undergo pain. Not only that, we would not be able to move further from the place where we are stuck.
And this post is especially for me, to get reminded, that God does His work perfectly and He is not to be blamed for anything. Recently, I felt a much void feeling in my heart due to the loss of my brother. I couldn’t take it up when things happened all of a sudden. It left a great scar in my heart and is taking so much time to heal. It is so hard to take it up, when your loved one is lost. Though, I always used to fight with my brother, as it happens in every sibling’s life, he occupied a special place in my heart which no one can reach. But, the sudden despise of him knocked me down, and more than that, I couldn’t watch what my mother was going through.
I really want to thank all my friends and families who stood with us, comforted us and prayed for us. I would be sure that, if someone hasn’t prayed for me in this situation, I wouldn’t have moved forward and wouldn’t have been typing this post for my blog.
I had so many questions in my mind. Why it happened? And how could God let it to happen? You know, sometimes, we question God which we shouldn’t and later when you are at peace, when you think about all these, you would be able to put those questions aside as foolish ones. I had the same questions to God. Days passed by but I couldn’t concentrate on anything. My mind was tightly shut with questions and not allowing answers to reconcile myself. It took time to come out of such an incident and this article brings you the things that made me to disconnect with God and the lessons which God taught and how He helped me to overcome those. I thank everyone who stood with us and prayed for us during our troubled time.
The Bible says,
Stay alert! Watch out for your great enemy, the devil. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour. 1 Peter 5:8 (NLT)
The MSG version says like this,
Keep a cool head. Stay alert. The Devil is poised to pounce, and would like nothing better than to catch you napping. Keep your guard up. You’re not the only ones plunged into these hard times. It’s the same with Christians all over the world. So keep a firm grip on the faith. The suffering won’t last forever. It won’t be long before this generous God who has great plans for us in Christ—eternal and glorious plans they are!—will have you put together and on your feet for good. He gets the last word; yes, he does.
It is clear and evident that, you are always being watched by God and Satan. You wouldn’t know, you might be doing something while your doors are being shut. But beware, you are being watched.
The first thing that came in my mind during those days was so many questions. Devil always fills our mind with questions, right from the days of Eve. Remember, when devil started conversing with Eve, she was hit with questions in her mind. And yes, ladies are always filled with so many questions in their mind sometimes it would be in a bursting condition. I am of that kind and filled myself with questions. Believe me, I didn’t get answers for anything until I let God to take control of my mind. Back to the start of this world, do you remember the question that the devil asked Eve?
The serpent was the shrewdest of all the wild animals the Lord God had made. One day he asked the woman, “Did God really say you must not eat the fruit from any of the trees in the garden?” Genesis 3:1 (NLT)
Notice the word, ‘really‘. The devil asks such a question that, it sparks the doubt in our mind. That was the first arrow of the devil towards us. So was my condition. I was with so many ‘WHY’s’ in my mind. My advice would be, when you are troubled with so many questions, try reaching your spiritual friend who would advice you not based on your circumstances and situations but according to the Word of God. I approached my fellowship friend and thank God she tolerated me. I remember texting her many times with the thoughts that came to my mind. And also, make sure your friend should be your reliable spiritual partner. And she helped me out. I was keeping everything in my heart and was so struggling so much. The first advice she gave was ‘find a place alone and cry out to God’
Cry out to God!
“Lord, help!” they cried in their trouble, and he saved them from their distress. Psalm 107:28 NLT
The Psalmist says that when we cry out to God in trouble, He comes and reaches out His hand to us. So, when you are in trouble, it is better to pour out your heart to God than anyone else. I felt so much peace after crying out to Lord than staying silent questioning myself. And when I cried out to Him, I felt like I was sleeping on His bossom with so much peace and all the questions were cleared by one answer that He put in my heart: “God knows each and every person better than their friends, relatives and even their parents.” My love for my brother would have been nothing when compared to the love He had for him and he is His creation and I dare not question the Master or blame Him for what had happened. That cleared my mind from all the doubts I had.
The second arrow that the devil used upon me was the questions that brought guilt. After the clearance of doubt, I was joyful only for two days and then again I became gloomy because guilt took the place in my mind. My brother was only one year elder to me and often we use to have the sibling fight. It doesn’t mean we didn’t love each other. We had the love in us that no one could ever imagine. There was this question in my mind – Shouldn’t I had prayed for him more? If only, I prayed that day….? And so on.
Guilt can cripple our life and the relationship with God and people. If it is not dealt with, it will destroy our intimacy with God. There are people who live with guilt which lies dormant in their heart for years. It drowns you and if it is not sorted out, you will end up emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually scared. It made me to doubt my relationship with God. Not only that, I didn’t open up my Bible for a month nor spent time in prayer. I became too lazy that I was not able to do my regular chore activities too at home. Sleep became my regular habit to escape from all my thoughts and all of a sudden, I would wake up with a great pain in my heart, “Lord, what should have been done by me to have stopped that?”. It is one of the strongest robbers of peace and it stalks our mind taking away our happiness and mental stability.
I was on the guilt-trap. But God helped me to come out of it. He reminded me that past is always behind me. I focused on His sovereignty more, the more and more I focused on Him, I gave up and stopped fighting on my own. So, if anyone who is reading this has guilt in your mind, let Christ be your confidence. Trust in the perfect merit of Jesus Christ on your behalf. Continually seek the Lord in prayer and ask Him to help you overcome guilt. Ask God to help you understand His grace and to help you fully trust in Christ.
For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world through Him might be saved. John 3:17
Instead of dwelling on your performance. Dwell on God’s awesome love and grace.
Joyce Meyer, in her sermon on Overcoming Grief explains, “God is good, and He cannot be anything else. Furthermore, He isn’t one way one time and another way another time. He doesn’t change. He is good, and that’s the way He is.But what about the original question? If God is good and all-powerful, why didn’t He stop this thing before it brought all the hurt and pain? To be very honest, these are questions we don’t have completely sufficient answers for. First Corinthians 13:12 says, …Now I know in part (imperfectly)…. Trust will always require us to accept unanswered questions! We want answers for everything, but we must come to the place where we’re satisfied to know the One who knows everything and place our trust completely on Him. Being mad at God is foolish because He’s the only One who can bring the needed help and comfort to the grieving for bereaved person.”
At some point, we must “rise above” our grief and sorrow, pick up the pieces and go on. Decide that you are going to trust Him in this and live your life within the constraints that He has placed upon you. This is the first step to overcome the grief. We need for Him to comfort us in our grief. Then we need to let Him empower us for the road ahead.
In his extreme situation, Job was able to say, “The Lord gives, the Lord takes away; Blessed be the Name of the Lord.” Does that sound too difficult? Understand this: if God is God, He deserves our worship even when things are going well in our lives or not. But once you really know Him, you will find it easy to worship Him – even in the worst of circumstances. This is because when we really know Him and know His character, we discover that He is all good. He has never done or allowed anything to be done to us in our entire lives but that which was meant for good. We can trust Him and His loving nature even when we don’t understand His reasons. “I know my plans for you,” saith the Lord,” plans for a future and a hope.”
The greatness of God is that from our messiness and from our pain He makes us a new person. The greatness of our God is that just when we think we can handle nothing, He strengthens us; and just when we think we can handle everything, He gives us the gift of suffering grief, and we have to grow up. We have to learn to lean on Him.
Dear readers, we can deal with grief if we allow ourselves to recognize its complexity, if we accept the love of caring friends, and if we permit God to use the grief to change us. Remember, we are over comers in Christ as the Bible says in 1 John 4:4,
You, dear children, are from God and have overcome them, because the one who is in you is greater than the one who is in the world.
He helped me and he is unchangeable – He will help you too. So, it’s time to get out of those things and change your garments in Christ and dwell in Him. God bless!